Example announcements would be
"I'm thinking of getting Indian takeaway and I'd like to swop stories
about coming out as bi"
"I've got picnic food I'm gonna eat in the gardens, and I'm not bothered
what we talk about".
"I want to meet other bi parents, and I want a sit-down meal, but I
don't mind where".
If you don't want to make an announcement, just listen and pick a group
to go with.
* The other one was the "conversation stickers" idea. That didn't seem to catch on very much, though, so I'm not bothering to write it up, or at least not right now.
That pretty much describes my original idea, although it mutated somewhat as it went along.
It was also meant to have been in the programme timetable. My original suggestion was "5 or 10 minutes into the break, for 5 minutes", with the criterion that the start time had to be late enough for people to walk back from the furthest-away workshop venue.
However, I'm aware that in practice, at least one of the evening ones got moved later by half an hour or so. After a day of workshops, people often want to go back to their rooms to dump stuff, have a wash, get changed or whatever, before going out to eat. So maybe that would work better in the scheduling. Further experimentation required there :-)
The sign stayed up all the time, so that even if people had missed the announcement, they still had a chance to find out about the idea by seeing the sign.
At BiCon 2002, the plenary room opened onto the entrance hall to the venue, and the meeting point we chose was just outside the plenary room door. That way, it was pretty central.
I think I probably would have done this even if it had been in the programme: partly because some people don't read the programme, and partly because if you want to be welcoming, it helps if people see a human being talking to them.
In a way, the group didn't need us, or certainly not after the first couple. It pretty much took on a life of its own after that. Though I'm not sure that anyone did the "town crier" bit when we weren't there, so there may have been a few more people who would have joined in if that had happened.
Ingredients I would keep:
"... a sort of mingling and/or announcements opportunity.
you see I think that one of the primary things that stops or inhibits people from making new friends at BiCon is the difficulty of identifying the _other_ people who are looking for new people to make friends with or hang out with for a bit. If you just assemble them all in one place, it immediately makes it much easier for everyone. I think it's much easier to say to someone "wanna go to lunch with me" if you already know that they are in the market for _someone_ to go to lunch with. and conversely it can be very quickly disheartening to make a couple of people offers and find they've already got plans with their existing friends which for whatever reason can't include you.
I also think that lunchtime is when people start to really feel the difference between knowing people to hang out with and not knowing people. It's not so obvious during workshops because you're all thrown together then anyway to some degree.
I've seen a similar thing done in other contexts (though never with an official meeting point, just someone standing up at the end of a session), and it does seem to work. I also think that just being in one designated meeting place would lead to a lot of people immediately hooking up with people they've already chatted to earlier (e.g. in a workshop), without any further formal structure at all."
So my original reasoning was all about the social aspects of it.
However, it had a benefit as well that I hadn't foreseen, of just making it easier for some people to (a) remember to eat, and (b) find somewhere to eat. In any random group at BiCon there are often people who by getting there early, or going off for a scout around while others are in workshops, or by living nearby in the first place, have sussed out the eating places. So it's very handy for those of us who run around like blue-arsed flies at BiCon to be able to tag onto someone who can guide us to some pre-researched nice nosh :-)